The Difference Between Purity & Virginity
A few weeks ago I got a phone call from one of my girlfriends announcing that she got a boyfriend. I asked her what she intended to say to him about how they will protect their purity. She continued to tell that they have already talked about it and that they are “taking things slow,” and he “values” her virginity just as much as she does. This got me to think about two things:
– What does “taking it slow” mean?
– What do people think is the difference between “purity” and “virginity”?
Couples all over the world will claim they are “taking it slow” but what does this really even mean? Does it mean the same thing to the both of them? Where do the physical boundaries start and end? Does “taking it slow” mean only kissing? And what kind of kissing? Kissing standing up is totally different and not nearly as stimulating as kissing each other while lying on the couch.
Why Our Kids Date (and Don’t Court)
It’s safe to assume every parent dreads the day their teenager begins dating. Suddenly the days of toy trucks and princess dolls are gone forever, now your children must navigate the dangerous waters of love and heartbreak. As a parent, you want to make sure your child stays safe and makes good decisions, but how do you accomplish this while respecting their independence? One option is to Facebook-stalk any potential suitors and show them your gun collection whenever they drop by the house. However, the healthier alternative would probably be to stop controlling your kids and start coaching them.
Mary DeMuth, of the blog Your Life Uncaged, believes this approach will ultimately benefit children as they grow older. She writes,
“Coaching your teen through dating is like teaching how to ride a bike. At first you hold the bike (akin to having great conversations about dating and marriage before the teen years), vowing to hold on as they learn balance. Eventually, if the child is ever going to ride alone, you have to let go and let them pedal. It doesn’t mean you run away. It means you run alongside, shouting encouragement. You can’t prevent every fall.”
Parents missing teens’ distress signs, fresh research reveals
IT’S the great parent-child divide — drugs are the main concern for mums and dads, but in reality their kids are more consumed by stress and body image.
New research has questioned whether parents really know what is going on with their children, with a disconnect between the issues they believe are most worrying, and those kids are grappling with.
Drugs were the biggest concern for 12-25-year-olds as ranked by parents in the national poll, followed by emotional abuse/bullying (61 per cent), depression (58 per cent), and suicide and alcohol (both 55 per cent).
4 Keys to Connecting with Millennials
Earlier this week I was playing cards with some locals at the cigar shop in town. I spend a lot of time in this place both studying and hanging out with people in the neighborhood. At the table with us was a young lady—college student studying music at the local university. We had a good conversation about the Millennial generation, and their lack of interest in the local church and even the Christian faith. We talked about what is that keeps Millennials distant from the church. She agreed with the current research that shows that they find the church to be irrelevant and insular, over-interested in politics, and under-interested in social justice. What can we do to bring them to the faith, or back to the local church?